Updated: Apr 12
God being a grown up can suck, bills to pay, the 9-5, limited free time and lots of
When I was a kid i couldn't wait to grow up, to settle down, renovate houses, travel the world and enjoy life. I have been very fortunate to do all of these things!
What i didn't expect were the bumps in the road... to get divorced, have a number of close bereavements and a crappy diagnosis of PCOS (Polycycstic Ovarian Syndrome) and suffering with anxiety. Bummer!
All of these things have challenged me, upset me, stressed me out and made me think god being a grown up sucks!
However, one weekend whilst entertaining my friends gorgeous babies, i was just engrossed in a world of strawberry eating, giggles, attempts to crawl, sandpit adventures and lots of gummy smiles. I completely forgot all of life's troubles.
It suddenly dawned on me, that these amazing tiny people didn't have a care in the world, they were fascinated by everything and were simply loving life.
So why as adults do we suddenly take life so seriously, get bogged down by things like work and money etc? Surely as adults we can have all of those responsibilities and still be fascinated and find life hilarious?
Following this enlightened moment (and a conversation with my counsellor) i started to let go of the stresses, the guilt over my failed marriage, the worries about money, wondering where i am going to be in 2/5/10 years and what i need to do to get there.
Instead i started to learn to live in the moment, enjoy time with my lovely fella who never fails to make me laugh till i snort (very attractive), have a relaxing bubble bath, not feel guilty over eating (a tub of) ice cream and i know it sounds mega corny but simply admiring sunsets... you'll notice take a lot of photos of them!
Now this doesn't mean i don't expect to have down days or get stressed, I know for a fact that is unrealistic.
But what it does mean is when those moments happen and my anxiety flares i will be able to deal with it a lot better.
So take that 30s and being a grown-up! I know i have a mortgage and responsibilities, but that doesn't mean i have to be an adult yet.... or maybe ever?!
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